I hate the, "so what do you do?" generic small talk. I probably wouldn't have a problem with it if people tended to enjoy their jobs instead of spending most of their time on something they don't even like.
"What do you do for fun?" is a much more interesting conversation at least 80% of the time. It's what all that time at that job is enabling them to do in their off time.
A few months ago I was at a dinner party, seated next to some people I'd never met before. While we waited for the next gustatory event to take place (I can't believe that's actually a word, it means "concerned with tasting or the sense of taste"), I pulled out old trusty, hoping to see the person light up like it usually happens.
"What do you like to do for fun?"
Chirp. Thoughtful. Chirp.
The silence was a little sad, to be honest.
Neither person in the couple could think of something they actively do for fun. They seemed happy enough, a great couple, lots of cool things and experiences to share - but all of those stories took place years ago.
Can you relate to this at all? You keep pushing things back, and pushing them back, and suddenly you're a bit stiff and afraid and what you're feeling physically makes you less excited than you used to be? You're not sure your body is up for it any more, and all your colleagues keep saying dumb things like "that's just what happens when you hit your 30s"/(40s/50s/60s/whatever age they happen to be).
'Good is the enemy of great' could easily be rephrased as 'comfortable is the enemy of passionate'.
If you don't use something, you lose it. And when you lose mobility, your world gets just a little smaller.
You do not have to accept this idea.
Your body is changing all of the time, and you are in the driver's seat. Take the wheel and get back on the road.
Be it languages or mobility training, your body efficiently and ruthlessly stops making space for stuff that you don't make time for. It's the most honest thing out there. Your body records your life.
If we never stop playing, we never get old. It's really very close to the truth. Most of us stopped playing, like really playing, but that just means it's time to start again.
When I moved to Durham last October I stopped moving quite as much as I usually did. I taught more than I trained and fell into the old adage of not making the time to practice what I preached as much as I preached it. My body felt weaker, my hips circles were smaller and had more achy spots. I could feel myself hesitate to jump as high or as far as I used to. Something had to change.
I already knew what to do. I just had to reconnect to why it was important to me to have that open, strong feeling that lets me move confidently. My lack of action was the only thing standing in my way to do the things I wanted to without pain, question, or insecurity. The past several years and thousands of dollars I've spent studying Thai massage, Functional Range Conditioning, Functional Release, and Kinstretch weren't just supposed to be for my clients, they were supposed to help me have fun too!!
Admittedly I made this course because I wanted to get people interested in my mobility training, since this is part of what I do for a living.
What I realized as I was making it was that in making the course I was drawing my own blueprint to help myself.
My hips feel the best they have in months just from filming all the material. I took all my best intuitive sense about how to arrange and build each lesson on one another and it's fabulous. There's almost 200 people that are working on themselves at various stages of it already, according to their needs.
"My plan was to actually run through the full 7 day hip program this week to do that justice. However, after about day 2, things went off the rails due to being busy. HOWEVER, I have been incorporating 5-10 minutes or hip movements (like from lesson 1) and 5-10 minutes of breathing exploration per day and I have to say my hips certainly, and maybe even my back are feeling better. It's crazy just how doing these exploratory movements and reading the spaces my body wants to move in help, but I've got to say it's freeing. I think this time-limited exploration could be an interesting tool for me going forward." - Charlie
This course will not be what gives you great hips into your 90s.
This course is not the end of your training. It's a beginning. An educated teaching on getting in touch with your own body, assessing honestly where you are RIGHT NOW, and showing you what you can do about it, forever.
The work that you do, the joy that you find in moving your body, the practice that you schedule into your life is what is going to keep you moving as much as you want to, so you can:
- Do whatever is fun for you.
- Have better stories at dinner parties.
- Help other people realize they can have fun too.
Your body doesn't stop changing so you can't stop taking care of it.
This course is for you.
I'll be honest, it is not easy to make mobility gains.
And it shouldn't be.
Your body would be full of dents if it were that easy to make changes. It may be unpopular in this microwaveable, miracle world we live in, but it's going to take hard work, consistently, over time.
If you ever feel discouraged, you can always message me at firstname.lastname@example.org - my email address is all over the place just for this reason.
Lessons 6 and 7 will be some of the hardest, most deceptively difficult work you have ever done, with almost no workout equipment required.
You will be sore, and you will have to figure out how often is often enough for you.
You'll have to start thinking about how much you're recovering, and sleeping, to reach your goals. You've probably already been thinking about that already. You know what you would be able to do if you helped yourself. When you start caring about one thing it will bleed into your life and get you thinking about a lot of other things that you could do for yourself. Action is the most powerful tool for further action.
And I predict that you will love it. You will quickly feel better than you ever have, and it will become something you're excited about.
At some point, the work doesn't become work any more. I encourage you to ask yourself why you want better hips in the first place. Get in touch with your goals and what moving better would really mean for the quality of your life. Start integrating movement into your life. Look for excuses to move your hips more. Go dancing. Pick up Jiu-Jitsu. Become the world's best lover. Then use this course to make all of those things that much easier in your life. When you start getting in touch with your hips, you'll realize this is something your body has been asking for.
I'm planning on living for a long time, so I might as well steer where I'm going.
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